choosing partner must think of future of handling ur own problems in a joint partner.
For example in ramayana
Lord rama and sita united heart of love blossom which made ravan and his sister jealous in such a way they made all troubles and even made sita mentally to burn herself which is been stopped by lord anchenayar..
In such a lot of triump lord rama and sita united and then they transformed as god .by bonding each other..
This is how we have to live…
Again in mahabaratha it is radhae who transformes herself as various forms according to her beloved lover krishna wishes to behave in such a way to capture the heart of people of mathura ..this all happens only when lord krishna and radhae understand each other and dont mind what others say …which made them to established their own empire.